Bridging the Gap

Well, it’s February and you know what that means.  The New Year high is wearing off.  Long to-do lists, kids, work, stress, commitments and on top of everything else, if you New Year’s Resolution was to get healthy, WELLNESS GUILT.  Many of us know the things you know you should prioritize in order to be healthy:

  • Sleep (7-8 hours per night for most people)
  • Whole foods diet, free of processed food
  • Limited alcohol consumption
  • Exercise 3-5 days per week
  • Reduce work related stress

BUT, what do you do when what you KNOW doesn’t transfer to what you DO?  This topic came up with me recently as I found myself in this very predicament.  Here I was armed with knowledge and here I was, NOT matching my action to my goals.  For example, work stress was building (because I really care about what happens there!) and I found myself missing workouts, and then seeking out the endorphin rush i usually got from fitness, I’d reach for shit I rarely eat since discovering healthy living. I think this is common around this time of year, when New Year’s Resolutions fall through the cracks.  I have a feeling I’m not alone in this.  Personally, I didn’t make any NY Resolutions.  I didn’t want to limit myself or create a situation where I’d be disappointed.  Instead,  I chose one word.  One guiding word that would be the theme of the year.  Find more on this here.  My word for 2018 is “forward”.  As in “onward”, “toward the front” or “ahead”.  All a guiding principle to shape my actions.  So….instead of looking at this perplexing spot I found myself in as a failure to move forward.  I’m going to USE my word to propel myself forward.  Follow?  No?  OK, well let’s break it down.  Here is my plan and something that might help you too!

Dig deep. And forgive yourself!

There might be something missing that is causing your disconnect from making your actions mesh with your goals.  Do you have more work related stress?  Is something going on in your family life?  Are you just plain tired?  We are human, people!  We can’t be perfect all the time.  Sometimes, you just eat the damn Nestle Crunch mini bar (or 3), cut yourself some slack and then move forward.  You know this is a marathon, not a sprint.  This isn’t “off the wagon so I’m ruined” BS!  Forgive yourself as quickly as you can.  Take a nap.  Sit in silence.  Call up a friend to talk or indulge in that guilty pleasure TV show (ahem, RHOBH.)  You might just find that you can get back on track with just this one step.

Find a community. Or two.  Or three!

Find a community of like-minded people.  Check in with them, create a system of accountability.  Open up to them about facing a lull in motivation and lean on them for support.  For me, I have found that my CrossFit family,  my yoga family, my work family and my Arbonne family are amazing communities that help me get back on track.  Or at least let me vent and then encourage me to lift something heavy, sweat out my toxins or read something positive and uplifting and then get back to work.


TOP 3 x 3 x 5 days/week.  Every night, write out the top 3 things you need to do for the top 3 areas in your life linked to your personal growth.  This doesn’t include the urgent things, the family things, etc.  Those things are going to happen and they need to be dealt with.  You know you need to make the kids lunches, or respond to email, etc.  You are going to do that stuff because you have to.  I mean the top 3 things in 3 areas that will fall through the cracks if you don’t make them a priority.  Here are mine:

  1. Health:
    • Meal prep for the next day
    • Go to the gym/get weightlifting training for the day done/go to yoga
    • Meditate 20 minutes at night
  2. Arbonne business
    • Ask 3 people to host an event
    • Ask 3 people who I think could benefit from the business to look at the opportunity
    • Invite 5 people to my next Burn & Learn/Healthy happy Hour/Discover Arbonne event
  3. Personal growth
    • Wake up at 6:00 am, listen to personal growth book on audible before the kids wake up
    • Write out and speak my affirmations aloud (powerful!)
    • Journal 10 minutes each day

Do I do this every single day?  For the most part, yes!  Am I perfect?  Absolutely not!  But there is a plan and I track my progress.  And what is tracked will grow.

I know that if I follow this plan, I will find my way back to matching my actions with my goals.  I hope you all are having a great 2018!  And if not, follow these steps to identifying what little things you can do to get back on track!  We have so much time left this year to make it amazing!  Don’t look back, only look forward!

What is your favorite way to align your actions with your goals?  I’d love to hear from you!


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